We all have ups and downs in our life. Sometimes the relationship won’t work, financial problem or health problems. It seems like humans are attracted to pain and if you try to run away from your problems then it’s like chasing clouds. We all want to be happy, but sadly we live in a world where people don’t want to see you happy now that’s a harsh truth, but you need to admit that. Jealousy is in human’s nature, so it’s good to live your own life.
Here are the 10 Things To Give Up If You Want To Be Happy
Complaining is a dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event. Instead of complaining to God about what’s wrong in your life, just thank him for what is right. Complaining about things isn’t going to solve your problem and moreover complaining will trap you in an unhappy state. So stop complaining just enjoy, accept what you are and thank God in every situation. There are two types of people in the world one who complains and one who doesn’t.
If you blame others, and it gives you happiness, then I feel so sorry for you.
Just stop blaming others and accept if you are wrong. Accepting flaw and weakness in yourself is the best thing you can do to make yourself happy as nobody is perfect.
I have seen people blaming each other for their bad decisions, and it’s so immature. Always blaming others shows negative self-esteem.
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Now, let me get this point clear with a small example. Suppose, you are going for an interview today; now you have two option in your mind that is faith and fear. Most of the people have fear in mind during an interview that I will not be selected and I’m not qualified. Instead of having fear, you can have faith that I will be chosen, and that might deliver you better results. Faith arrives only when you remove negative thoughts from your life and dwell on positive thoughts. The only thing that’s making you unhappy is your thoughts. Change them.
Dwelling On the past
Dwelling on bad decisions made in the past only allows those decisions to keep defining you. Forgive yourself and move on. There is an old saying in Hindi “Bhul Jana Usse Jo Tujhe Bhul Gaya” which means “Forget that person who has forgotten you.” Just remember what had happened in the past just move on because you have not seen your best day yet.
Further Reading: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Resistance to change
We all make a resolution at the start of the year, and the next day we break it. Always remember that change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end. Change is difficult but essential to survival. Where there is resistance to change, there’s resistance to ideas. While changing habits have patience and persistence within yourself.
The need to impress others
Stop impressing other if you want to be happy because, in the end, people will judge you no matter what. So, live your life and impress yourself. Do what you love, love what you do. This is your life you don’t need to impress other so that you can be happy, just impress yourself.
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Words determine your future, pay attention to the things that you are saying right now about your life. If you say negative words about your life, it will make you unhappy. I asked one of my friends where did you see yourself in 5 years he replied, “I will be working in a private company where I will be only getting 8000 INR (120 USD)”. I will not be surprised if this exactly happens after five years. So never say anything negative about your future if you can’t speak well just remain calm it’s still better than cursing.
The need for other’s approval
A truly strong person does not need the approval of others than a lion needs the approval of sheep. Seeking the approval from others will never bring happiness in your life. You should believe in your choice if things didn’t work the way you expected you are evolving your skill.
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Comparing will always make you unhappy so stop comparing yourself with others. Just accept where you are and be happy with that. Everyone has their weakness, strength and their different story so stop comparing yourself to others because you don’t know the whole story. Comparing yourself with others will lead you fighting with God like God why don’t you have given me that body, why was I born in this family and why aren’t we rich, etc… and in the end, these questions are going to lead you to a bad mood making you unhappy.
You can be what you want if you are willing to give up the notion that you can’t have it. Stop limiting your belief, stop saying I can’t do this and start saying I will do it no matter what happens. Dream big, work hard and Be happy…!