We all have ups and downs in our life. Sometimes the relationship won’t work, at times family problems occur and sometimes health problems. We all want to be happy, but sadly we live in a world where people don’t want to see you happy now that’s a harsh truth, but you need to admit that. Jealousy is in human’s nature, so it’s good to live your own life without comparing yourself to others.
Here are the 10 Things To Give Up If You Want To Be Happy
Complaining is a dissatisfaction or annoyance about a state of affairs or an event. Instead of complaining to God about what’s wrong in your life, just thank him for what is right. Complaining about things isn’t going to solve your problem and moreover complaining will trap you in an unhappy state. So stop complaining just enjoy, accept what you are and thank God in every situation.
If you blame others, and it gives you happiness, then I feel so sorry for you.
Just stop blaming others and accept if you are wrong.
I have seen people blaming each other for their bad decisions, and it’s so immature. Always blaming others: this shows negative self-esteem. You don’t take the responsibility for your mistake because you aren’t comfortable with yourself enough to accept that it’s your fault.
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Now, let us get this point clear with a small example. Suppose, you are going for an interview today; now you have two option in your mind that is faith and fear. Most of the guys have fear during an interview that I will not be selected, and that’s a very negative thought. Instead of having fear, you can have faith that I will be chosen, and that might deliver you better results. Faith arrives only when you remove negative thoughts from your life and dwell on positive thoughts. The only thing that’s making you unhappy is your thoughts. Change them.
Dwelling On the past
Dwelling on past bad decisions you have made only allows those decisions to keep defining you. Forgive yourself and move on. There is one line in Hindi “Bhul Jana Usse Jo Tujhe Bhul Gaya” which means “Forget that person who has forgotten you.” Just remember what had happened in the past just move on because you have not seen your best day yet.
Further Reading: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Resistance to change
We all make a resolution at the start of the year, and next day we break it. Always remember that change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end. Change is difficult but essential to survival. There is resistance to change. There’s resistance to ideas.
The need to impress others
Stop impressing other if you want to be happy because, in the end, people will judge you anyway. So, live your life and impress yourself. Don’t waste your life trying to impress other people. Do what you love, love what you do. This is your life you don’t need to impress other so that you can be happy, just impress yourself and is sufficient.
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Words determine your future, pay attention to the things that you are saying right now about your life. If you say negative words about your life, it will make you unhappy. I asked one of my friends where did you see yourself in 5 years he replied, “I will be working in a private company where I will be only getting 8000 INR (120 USD)”. I will not be surprised if this indeed happens after five years. So never say anything negative about your future if you can’t speak well just remain calm it’s still better than talking bad.
The need for other’s approval
A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep. Seeking the approval from others will never bring happiness in your life. You should believe in your choice, and you don’t need any approval from others. You have the dream in your heart don’t tell them and don’t take approval from them just show them.
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Comparing will always make you unhappy so stop comparing yourself with others. Just accept where you are and be happy with that. Everyone has their weakness, strength and their different story so stop comparing yourself to others because you don’t know the whole story. Comparing yourself with other will lead you fighting with God like God why don’t you have given me that body, why was I born in this family and why aren’t we rich, etc… and in the end, these questions are going to lead you to a bad mood and make you unhappy.
You can be what you want if you are willing to give up the notion that you can’t have it. If people are not laughing your goals than your goals are too small. Stop limiting your belief stop saying I can’t do this and start saying I will do it no matter what happens. Dream big, work hard and Be happy…!