We are living in a world where people can chat with their partner for hours on mobile but can’t strike a decent conversation during a date. Being busy is considered as a symbol of importance. On the other hand, technology has ruined us both mentally and physically. It’s a bitter truth. Children these days don’t want to go to the playground as they tend to keep their eyes glued to a 6-inch screen. Further, people with passion and grit are sometimes seen as unhappy, and they don’t even know the reason. In reality, the main reason is we humans think we are the cornerstone of one field only and if a person is not adapting with the change in the new environment that person’s life is bound to be “unhappy”.
Dr. Shimi Kang — an award-winning, Harvard-trained doctor also a researcher, media expert, and a lecturer on human motivation. Her brilliance in Psychology is like a shark swimming in a fishbowl. When she was studying medical, she made up her mind to work with the World Health Organization (WHO) in Switzerland. With an intuitive feeling to help and understand people right from her young days, she wanted to comprehend health care challenges at the global level and how she could fit into the mold and help the world be better. This is when she ended up in the division of mental health.
Further Reading: Allison Graham – The Resiliency Ninja
The experience at Genève opened her eyes that immediately turned red when she witnessed the plight of current global healthcare conditions. She came to know one in every four people on earth is suffering from mental health issues. Having worked with thousands of people from all walks of people, she perceived that the world is in trouble. With that in mind, she plunged on a journey to make a difference in this world and give things which every human seeks: Happiness and Deep Fulfillment.
She dug deep and dived into the field of psychology, biology, and neuroscience. According to her, the primary reason that leads to mental stress is the thought of ‘Perfectionism’ in everything one does. Everyone wants to look perfect and be perfect in their lives. The Internet world has sabotaged the definition of perfectionism. In today’s world, people want to make their lives virtually good on social networking platforms rather than in reality. Unfortunately, the perception of people on social media is shaped by how one dress. In order to receive a positive comment, People take the assistance of photo filters to look picture-perfect and be accepted by the so-called ‘perfectionist society.’ On the other extreme, one negative comment can make you traumatic, pushing you into severe depression.
Having investigated the cause of this health issue that requires immediate attention, Shimi came to a conclusion that depression causes sleep deprivation, social isolation and restricting them to socially interact. These are some of the factors owing to which we humans are reboarding the stress train. According to research, an average person lives 78 years, and we spend 28.3 years of our life sleeping. That’s almost a third of our lives, but 30% of us struggle to sleep well.
After years of researching like a grain in a sack, “It’s “adaptability” which makes a difference between success and failure,” says Shimi. She has an intuitive feeling that the solution had to be more authentic and simpler. The person or company who can adapt to an environment can lead to an incredible life, while, on the other hand, a person having grit and passion but unable to adapt to change will be like a dog without the power of smell. Her investigation about adaptability unlocked many uncertain doors about happiness. Eventually, the concept of adaptability that she came out with has helped many people globally to live a better life.
Although she lives in a metropolis of Canada—a modern city with excellent infrastructure with three kids, she still had challenges raising her children. “I’m a Harvard-trained doctor and I spent nearly half of my life in the field of Psychology. Why am I having difficulty raising them?” she questioned herself. It was only after an extensive research that she came to know that this scenario prevails everywhere devoid of caste, geography or nationality. Hence, she is on a mission to help 21st-century parent’s deal with such issues.
Further Reading: Dr. Cortney Warren – The Psychology of Self-Deception
Shimi would take her children to the aquarium—and they become very interested in dolphins and animals. Later on, she learned that the Dolphins brain has a larger centre for social connection, empathy and love—even larger than the human brain. She found this very intriguing. “It’s kind of a strange concept relating humans to a Mammal that lives fully under-water.” She continues, “These kinds of unusual concepts only come to your mind when you stay away from technology and embrace the nature.” Dolphins are very adaptable—as already discussed; adaptability is the key to an awesome life.
Earlier, the concept of ‘Tiger Mom’ was used as a method to parent kids wherein parent’s used to pressurizing and beating their kids. Shimi wanted to change this bizarre approach and came with a new path known as “Dolphin Way”. In her investigation, she came to know dolphins are happy, healthy and strong and she wonders why humans ain’t. “Humans have forgotten what it means to be humans,” she says.
Shimi has used dolphin as a metaphor. Her idea consists of three elements which are P.O.D. where:
- P means Play dolphins always play and these days we humans never do. By play, it means any physical exercise or an outdoor sport rather than playing on Mobile. The ‘play’ is a huge stress reliever and leads to innovation.
- O means Other dolphins are socially connected to each other but we humans aren’t. Some kids are depressed because they don’t want to share their pain.
- D means Downtime dolphin sleeps adequately, whereas, on the other hand, we humans often sacrifice our sleep for ambitions that eventually lead to various health issues.
For someone struggling with raising their children, P.O.D concept is the answer to your prayers.
Further Reading: Susanna Halonen – The Happyologist
Do you know?
When we are asleep, we are rewarded by positive neurochemicals like dopamine and serotonin.
In 2014, she wrote a book “The Dolphin Parent: Raising Healthy, Happy and Self-Motivated Kids.” It became the #1 National Bestseller, having won her the prestigious—2015 US News International Book Award in Parenting and Family Category. The book has been translated and released in Germany, Russia, and China. Dr. Shimi is the 2012 recipient of the ‘Queen Elizabeth II Diamond Jubilee Medal’ and ‘2016 YWCA Woman of Distinction Award’ for her years of outstanding community service in health and wellness.