How to Deal with Selfish People

How to Deal with Selfish People


There are many kinds of people in the world, some of them fulfill our lives with love and satisfaction, but also there are others that seem to exist only to use us and abuse us. If you are surrounded by selfish people, it can be difficult to deal with them. And that can reduce our confidence and increase our level of stress.

Selfishness is defined by characteristics such as: caring exclusively for oneself, not taking into account the needs or feelings of others, disregarding their own interests, disregarding almost completely of others.

Some tips for dealing with selfish people are:

 

Understand where their behaviors come from.

How to Deal with Selfish People

Understanding doesn’t mean justifying, but simply seeking an explanation of what is motivating someone’s behavior. We often make assumptions about what motivates people to act in a certain way, for good and for bad. But those assumptions are often wrong.

It is important to understand that people have feelings and needs that must be respected. We can know the reason for their selfish attitudes.

 

Do not take the attitudes of others as something personal.

It is an important skill to know how to deal with many different behaviors coming from other people. When we avoid the personalization of other people’s behaviors, we can perceive their expressions in a more objective way.

Further Reading: 6 Signs of Fake Nice People You Should be Aware of

 

Do not let them abuse you. 

How to Deal with Selfish People

Once you are aware that you relate to a selfish person, learn to mark your limits. Take care of yourself and give yourself to respect so that the other person understands that he cannot continue to abuse you. Show your strength to the other person. Since selfish people try to take advantage of the people which appears to be weak.

 

Let them see their behavior.

One way is by replicating their behavior, so they can see themselves reflected in you. This will also help us understand their position and realize how they manipulate us.

Another way to make them understand how they are behaving is to speak with them in an assertive manner without blaming them or reproaching them for anything. Simply having the objective that they know how we feel when they act selfishly.

Further Reading: How to Deal with Toxic Family Members

 

Set limits.

How to Deal with Selfish People

If you want to make some protection for yourself from selfish people, it is necessary to establish clearly identifiable limits. When you feel uncomfortable speak for yourself. Keep in mind that selfish people act selfishly if you allow them to get away with it.

 

Do not assume.

We often make assumptions that are often incorrect or misleading. Many times we assume that someone acts in some way for certain reasons and we can be wrong. So, before assuming that someone is selfish, we must make sure that he is behaving in that way for selfish reasons and not for another explanation.

Further Reading: 8 Ways To Differentiate Real Friends And Toxic Friends

 

Limit the time you spend with them.

How to Deal with Selfish People

These people are totally destructive and probably you do not find convenient to spend a good time with them. If you really do not feel good to have them by your side, the best thing you can do is to make them disappear from your lives. Find new friendships and forget them.

 

Remember that a certain amount of selfishness is healthy.

We must take care of ourselves and thus it will also be possible for us to take care of others. Even selfless care and generosity is not really disinterested. But we must be careful when people overindulge in self-care because a certain amount of selfishness is necessary to survive, but too much can be very damaging to relationships.

Further Reading: How to Stop Others from Crushing Your Dreams

 

Get away from such a person

How to Deal with Selfish People

The most likely is that the selfish person is not going to change. Maybe he is not even aware of his own selfishness, or even interested in being aware of it. So, the recommendation is to get away little by little from that person, in case his abuses towards you are very frequent and you are tired of the situation. Remember that you must also have a  bit of healthy selfishness to take care of yourself and seek your well-being.


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