I am sure that I am neither the first nor the last person who once naively thought that she would truly love herself when everything in life was right and when all her goals are fulfilled. Of course, maturation teaches us that this kind of thinking is completely wrong and naive, and in fact, we are never completely satisfied with our lives and there is always something wrong with us. Love, it seems, happens when we do the opposite. Life makes sense only when we learn to love ourselves.
Below, read the necessary attitudes that you need to accept, to learn to accept yourself and to love yourself, with all your defects and virtues. We have to transform ourselves and make important life changes. Before you begin this transformation process, consider stopping to do things that hold you back. Here’s a short list of what you should not be doing from now on…
Stop resenting yourself
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. In the end, you will hurt yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness doesn’t mean only to say: “What you did is ok.” Forgiveness means: “I will not let that what I did forever disrupt my happiness. In forgiveness lies the answer…” Forgive yourself, find peace, be part of it! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it is also true for you. You need to forgive yourself, continue and try better next time.
Stop worrying about old mistakes
We can love the wrong person and cry for bad things, but no matter how badly we are going, one thing is certain, errors help us find the right person and right things for us. We all make mistakes, we have our struggles, and we are complaining about some things from the past. But you are not your mistake, you are not your fight, you are here and NOW and you have the power to shape your day and your future. Everything, even the smallest thing that happened to you in the past, has prepared you for the moment that is yet to come. Let that moment be now!
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Stop spending time with the wrong people
Life is too short to spend it with someone who ruins your happiness and makes you feel bad. If someone wants you in your life, they will make some space for you. You don’t need to fight for that space. Never insist on someone who constantly overestimates your value. And remember, your friends are not those who are with you only when you are in the best edition, but those who are with you when it’s hardest.
Stop being something that you aren’t
One of the biggest challenges in life is to be your own in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else. There will always be someone better, smarter, younger, but they will never be YOU. Don’t change to make people love you. Be your own and people will love you.
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Stop being ungrateful
No matter how much or a bit you have every day wake up with gratitude. Somewhere, somebody desperately fights for what we take for granted. Instead of thinking about what you lack, try to remember everything you have, and what others lack. In our life, we come to things that we deserve and which will teach us certain lessons. If you constantly think that you deserve better and more, then you will never learn what is needed.
Don’t let fear stop you
Fear is very wicked, for it can manifest in various ways – through jealousy, anxiety, anger, impatience. How to deal with fear? Simply, instead of fear, choose love. Every day, at any moment, you have the opportunity to experience certain situations in another way. You, in fact, always choose between love and fear. It sounds banal, but it really is. Experience yourself as a strong person, which fears will not move away from goals and intentions. You know what they say, “The only thing that divides us from our goal is a small voice in our heads that tells us that we cannot do something.” Don’t let fear dominate your emotions, stop you and decide for you.
To summarize, everything comes down to learning to accept yourself and stop holding yourself back. Believe me, others will notice it. Once you learn to love yourself, you will enjoy it when you don’t seem to have too many reasons to do so.