The sun and the moon, wondered at by all of mankind throughout our history. These two celestial bodies inspired our stories, our gods and our monsters and there is no doubt as to why. We are ruled by them, their obit’s dictating our days, months and seasons with each fraction of rotation. 

Their energies give our world it’s life and it’s order, watching over the chaos with a calm predictable pattern, their changes mimicking the changes we go through ourselves. From the ages of ancient Greece to today we have somehow forgotten a sacred knowledge about how these shimmering bodies relate to us personally. 

This is the knowledge that the sun and the moon represent the energies of the divine masculine and the divine feminine. These are forces we harbour within us that, when acknowledged, can open the door to a level of emotional and physical freedom that is crucial to a life of fulfillment and success. The Greeks displayed this knowledge in their gods: Apollo, the god of the sun is a fine masculine figure with a love for music and a tendency for war; whilst his twin sister Artemis is the goddess of the moon. She symbolises hunting, dancing and is the protector of young girls. 

Both energies have their strengths and weaknesses. The masculine energy being famed for progress, aggression, determination and physical endurance; rising above the horizon day after day. The moon however, like the feminine energy ebbs and flows in strength and instead of physical endurance the divine feminine represents emotional endurance, intellect, growth and change.

Whilst the lunar and solar patterns have gendered connotations the energies themsleves have nothing to do with the human idea of sex. Whilst some find it easier to connect with the masculine energy of the sun (living by the sun)  for example, it does not dictate their ability to access the divine feminine (loving by the moon). Each of us possesses a unique blend of these two opposing forces which when harnessed properly can bring both inner harmony and connectedness within our relationships. 

The phrase living by the sun and loving by the moon makes sense when you think about it in terms of the energies I have described but using certain aspects of the masculine archetype of the sun to your advantage can not only improve your physical wellbeing but also your quality of sleep and even your career!


How to live by the sun and what are its benefits?

Live by the sun love by the moon

The answer is simple and its crux lies in the belly of observation – observe the sun and the length of his days and work with them rather than against them. An easy way to implement this is by taking five minutes each morning, coffee in hand, to gaze out the window and watch as the sun changes the world around us day by day.

It’s easier said than done but by working with the sun’s hours we can improve our quality of sleep and our quality of life in general.

The sun gives us seasons and with each season comes a task, in winter the sun sets early suggesting we should rest as much as we can, keeping ourselves warm and conserving our energy until the cold spell passes. Winter is a time of rest, although most modern-day work appears to work in the opposite fashion, encouraging us to only take a break in the summer. This seems logical as, after all, who wants to waste their holidays when the weather is miserable? But the winter is hard, both physically and mentally with many struggling with seasonal affective disorder. It’s obvious that the darkness of the winter days takes its toll on our mood and many struggle with the constant battle of finding the motivation to continue working as hard as they have been in previous months. Whilst taking more time to rest and reflect upon the events of the past year will not solve any deep psychological issues it can become a balm to salve some of the pain.

In spring we begin to leave the dens created for ourselves during the winter months and enter back into a vibrant mess of life and colour which inspires us to work longer hours, setting plans into motion and sowing seeds to reap in the coming months. Whilst winter forces us to look within ourselves, spring encourages us to look outward, engaging with the world we are surrounded by. Spring is the perfect time to set into motion plans of change, whether that’s by asking your boss for a pay rise or changing the layout of your home. Spring brings the energy and momentum felt after a sweet night’s rest and using this fully can give life a new sense of excitement.

In the summer months the days are filled with warmth, giving serotonin freely to all who seek it. This is where the hard work sets in, pushing actions to improve ourselves and build upon the foundations set in spring.

Autumn, a time filled with the smell of pumpkin spice lattes and the subtle shift from wild nights out to cozy nights in. In autumn it’s time to assess and harvest the growth from the year, using the time to evaluate the past year and prepare as much as possible before the cold settles in and ‘Rest’ demands attention again.

Further Reading: New Moon Rituals – Set Powerful Intentions for Manifestation


How Loving by the Moon can improve your relationship?

Living by the sun gives us the canvas of seasons on which we can paint our times for working and resting. However, the seasons are long and working constantly will lead to burnout, this is where learning the lunar phases and their meanings comes in. Love occurs in the state of dusk, the merging of the sun’s masculine energy and the curves and changes of the feminine energy come together and work in harmony eith one another.

To love by the moon on the surface suggests that love should occur separately to life, as the curtain closes on the working day the time for passion peeps out into view..

Yes it is easier to love in the nighttime, our inhibitions are lower, we are more likely to trust those close to us and no truly spontaneous, soul-searching conversations are able to exist under the watchful glare of the sun. 

So it makes sense to love by the moon, but to truly capture the power of this ideology we need to understand the moon in the same way we understand the sun.

The moon, like the sun, has her seasons, the only difference being the number of days present in each phase. The luna cycle lasts twenty-eight days with each season coming into fruition exactly one week after the other. Just as there is a task for each solar season there is a task for each lunar phase.

The new moon, this is the lunar equivalent of winter. This is a time to become more intimate with your partner, spending time alone together finding warmth within one another as the new moon represents a lowness in terms of energy. Take the time to explore one another, finding and caressing their fears and dreams. Allowing yourself to become vulnerable at this stage of the moon’s cycle will bring you both closer.

The waxing moon relates to spring, is a time to evolve relationships allowing them to grow like the seedlings in the warmth of the sun’s gaze. The waxing moon urges decision making and change to allow the relationship to watch grow over the next few cycles. This phase is perfect for taking one another on dates, opening yourselves up to new ideas and enjoying the company of one another. 

The full moon represents summer, excess and enjoyment, in terms of love the full moon is the time to go wild. Enjoying one another anywhere other than at home. Spend time outside, allowing spontaneity to take over from meticulous planning and allowing yourselves to become drunk on one another.

The waning moon represents recovery, the slow pull back into privacy. It calls for an assessment, a harvest of the fruits of the past cycle and a preparation for the slowness of the new moon.


What are the problems with this mantra and why does it matter?


The phrase is useful in it’s simplicity, it can be easily printed onto t-shirts and tote bags and sold as a commodity, capitalised spirituality. But the selling point of the phrase is also its downfall. without an explanantion or deeper understanding the concept is lost and in it’s place an empty hint at the duality of human nature is left.

To create a life filled with love and success, we need to be able to access both the masculine and feminine energies associated with our solar system and use this knowledge to our advantage. Resting when the universe tells us to rest, working when the universe gives us the energy to work and living and loving in the twilight of our existence.


What to take away from this?

Reconnecting with the planets that rule our lives is not something most people are consciously aware of. We tend to ignore the earth around us, too caught up in the stressors of our daily lives to come up for air. By taking the time to watch the sun and track the moon we allow ourselves to come back to our natural patterns and habits, using our energies in sync with the cosmos rather than working against it.