There’s this unofficial “leave your ex in the past” rule. This is the reason why you’ve been ignoring your ex’s attempts to get back together. The truth is, breakups don’t have necessarily have to lead to cut-offs.
Getting back together with your ex is not an entirely bad idea in itself. However, it can turn out to be a terrible idea if you don’t address the issue that caused the breakup in the first place. Now, the question is, how do you know that your ex will come back? There are signs. There are always signs. These signs can either be subtle or obvious, and this depends on how audacious your ex is and how much they want you back. These are some of the most common signs:
1.THEY ARE NOT TRYING TO GET OVER YOU
This is an obvious sign that your ex will eventually come back. An ex that doesn’t want to have anything to do with you anymore will most likely delete your contact and block you from their social media platforms. They will also erase every physical representation of what you both shared and the times you spent together. If your ex is not making an active attempt to shut you out of their life, then they might just be looking for a way to come back to your life.
2. THEY WANT TO MEET UP
Meeting up is not something someone who’s trying to forget you and move on with their life does. Naturally, if an ex is asking to meet up with you, they’re either looking for closure or a way to come back to you. In most cases, it’s usually the latter because closure is easier when it doesn’t involve a physical meeting.
If your ex is keen to meet up with you or spend time with you, the aim is to find a way to come back to you. Especially when you’re coming up with excuses and blocking the meeting with your busy schedule but they seem to be available to meet you whenever you’re ready.
Your ex knows that there’s something about seeing someone you’re still emotionally attached to after a breakup. They know that physical meetings enhance communication and they plan to communicate their way back to your life.
3. THEY BRING UP RANDOM MEMORIES YOU SHARE IN A CHEESY WAY
Memories are amazing. They have the ability to soften even the hardest of hearts. They are this powerful specifically because they’re unchanging. No matter what has changed in the present, the memory remains the same and every time we remember it, we have the opportunity to relive that moment in the past. Here’s an example of how your ex can bring up a memory in a cheesy way.
“Do you remember that night that we were on a road trip and ran out of gas? Do you remember how we laughed at our predicament? We played music and sang along. We literally caused chaos with our voices until we found someone that offered to help us. This memory reminds me of how beautiful your soul is and how you manage to make even the most mundane situations beautiful.”
If your ex brings up random memories with a dash of cheesiness like this, their plan is definitely to warm their way back to your life.
4. THEY REMEMBER RANDOM THINGS ABOUT YOU
There are so many random details about you that people who don’t deeply care about you won’t bother to remember. These details have a way of making you feel special because they seem inconsequential yet they are significant. If your ex remembers these details about you. Details like: how allergic you are to shrimp, your lactose intolerance, your love for stargazing, how you furrow your brows when you’re trying to concentrate, your obsession with action movies and your habit of sleeping with the lights on.
If your ex remembers these details and mention them often, they’re definitely trying to tell you that they still care about you as much as they used to.
5. THE BREAKUP WAS SPONTANEOUS
There are times when both parties in a relationship agree to go their separate ways. You ex may never come back to you after this kind of breakup because it was a unanimous decision that you both thought through. However, there are also spontaneous and unplanned breakups. Breakups that happen at the heat of the moment.
If the breakup with your ex was a spontaneous one, they might come back. Especially if you both had a good relationship prior to the misunderstanding that led to the breakup. Your ex will most likely choose settling the misunderstanding and working on a better relationship instead of letting you go.
6. THEY ENGAGE YOUR POSTS ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Not many people continue to follow their exes after a breakup. Therefore, if your ex is still following you across your social media platforms, the door to coming back to you is still open.
If your ex takes it further by liking your posts, leaving comments and sharing your posts then they intend to walk back through that open door. If they randomly send you DMs and tag you on posts they think you’d find funny or relatable then they still think of you and they want you to know it. If your ex upload posts that talks about missing their love or wanting their love back then they’re definitely asking you to see how bad they want to come back to you.
7. THEY TRY TO CORRECT THE THINGS YOU COMPLAINED ABOUT IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Nobody shows up with a changed behavior like an ex that wants to get back together. The first thing your ex does when they want to come back to your life is fix up on the things you weren’t satisfied with in the relationship.
If your ex who was a perpetual latecomer while you two were dating shows up early for a meeting with you, they might just be showing you that they can be a better lover. If your ex who used to respond late to your messages when you two were together starts responding to your message immediately, they’re telling you that they want to do better.
8. THEY REGULARLY CHECK UP ON YOU
Getting random “heyyy, how are you doing? Just checking up on you” messages from your ex means they still think about you and they still care about your welfare.
When your ex is quick to offer their help when you admit to needing help when your ex makes efforts to brighten your day by doing things they know you like then they still care about you and they want you to see just how much.
9. YOU’VE BROKEN UP AND GOTTEN BACK TOGETHER BEFORE
Naturally, there’s a probability that your ex would want to come back to you after a second breakup.
If your ex would be more confident in their ability to win you back because they’ve done it before, they’d try to do it again. If your ex is doing the same things they did to win you back the first time then they’re applying the lessons they learned from that experience to acheive the same goal.
This is one of the surest signs that your ex will come back to you because getting back together after the second breakup happens more frequently than getting back together after the first breakup.
10. THEY TALK TO YOU ABOUT HOW UNHAPPY THE BREAKUP MAKES THEM
If your ex isn’t trying to get back to you, they won’t tell you how the house feels empty without you. They would be too busy trying to forget and get over you. Therefore, if your ex is honestly telling you how lonely they feel without you and how much they miss you, they want you back and they’re trying to get you back.
If your ex talks about how happier they were with you and how hard it is to find someone like you, their point is that they’re sorry they let you go and they’re coming back to you.
11. THEY ARE STILL FRIENDLY WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY
After deleting your contact, blocking you on all social media platforms and getting rid of your things that are in their possession, an ex that does want to have anything to do with you anymore will severe all ties with your family and friends. They might even go as far as staying away from mutual friends in order to avoid talking about or running into you.
Hence, if your ex is still maintaining a cordial relationship with your friends and family, they’re coming back. This is a sure sign because keeping things that remind them of you after the breakup will make it harder for them to move on. So if they’re doing this, the explanation is that they’re not trying to move on, they’re finding their way back to you.
12. THEY TALK TO MUTUAL FRIENDS ABOUT HOW MUCH THEY MISS YOU
Your ex is not avoiding mutual friends instead they’re showing up as promptly as they used to when you two were together. They’re also telling mutual friends how much they miss you, how you were the best thing that has ever happened to them and how they still love and want you back. If this sounds like your ex then they’re coming back. The fact that they’re willing to be vulnerable with mutual friends about their feelings for you means they’re actively putting efforts into winning you back.
13. THEY CALL YOU WHEN THEY NEED SOMEBODY
Your ex calls you when they’re drunk because you’re still on their speed dial. They call you when theyvneed someone to talk to because you’re they feel comfortable talking to you than anyone else. They call you when they have good news to share because they want you to hear it first. They call to tell you about their day because they want you to know everything.
Your ex doesn’t this because they’ve refused to accept the breakup and have decided to call it their way back to you.
14. YOU FREQUENTLY BUMP INTO THEM AT YOUR FAVORITE SPOTS
The truth is, you don’t frequently bump into your ex at your favorite spots. They’re intentionally appearing at places they know you’d be so they can start small talks that’d eventually lead to a big talk.
They are trying to get your attention and making it seem like they’re not trying at all. If your ex is doing as much as being in different locations at different times just to get your attention then they definitely plan to come back to your life.
15. THEY ARE CURIOUS ABOUT YOUR LOVE LIFE.
They don’t just ask you your relationship status. They want to know who you’ve gone on dates with. They want to know everything that happened on the dates. They want to know if you’re considering a relationship with them. You can also sense jealousy in their reaction when you speak positively about a potential lover. If your ex shows this amount of interest in your love life then they’re not just concerned about who you’re with, they’re concerned that you’re not with them and they plan to change this.
If your ex is exhibiting any of the aforementioned signs, they are all packed up and ready to come back to you.