You think you have some very cool friends, but did you ever gave this thinking a second thought? If your answer is a “Yes,” you might not have a cool best friend as you think. Why? Because, if they were such a good friend, you shouldn’t have doubted it even for a millisecond of time.
Having a best friend is the most important thing in life, as they are the ones with whom you will share all your joy, sorrows and some very private secrets.
When you have a lot of friends, it becomes challenging to know, who is being true to you and who is just another FAKE friend.
At any given time, you can find lots of false friends who portray themselves as if they are your best friend forever. You seriously need to keep away from such energy suckers.
To make sure are staying in a positive environment that’s best for your success and happiness, ensure that you Best Friends (As you think!) aren’t guilty of these ten things.
If s/he is your best friend, they will never do these ten things:
1# They remain faithful to your back
Yes, best friends ( a true one) will never gossip about you on your back. They will say whatever they feel like, on your face and not behind your back.
For them, speaking what they believe in, on your face isn’t a hard task. Your BFF’s know that you will never get offended by their words.
Moreover, they will never say anything that might hurt you even in the slightest manner.
Your best friend simply likes you, and that’s the reason why you are their best friend.
2# They keep your secret, a secret!
Yes, best friends never reveal your secret to anyone, no matter how close they are to that particular individual.
When someone asks them something ( a private affair) about you, they will just reply, ‘I don’t know about that,’ rather than to reveal the secret.
If any of your friends aren’t able to keep your secret, they aren’t worth your trust.
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3# They don’t argue with you
When was the last time that you argued with your best friend? A long time back? And how long did it last? Five–to-Six short minutes? This states that best friends usually don’t fall into an argument. Of course, as a human being with the ability to think, arguments are inevitable, it will happen once in a while. But not as often.
Even if they argue with you, they do it respectfully and always try to end it as soon as possible.
A true best friend should be able to accept you the way you are; you don’t need to be perfect to get a best friend. The world is full of like-minded people, and therefore you shouldn’t have to worry about that.
4# They are good listeners
Yes, best friends are excellent listeners, they will listen to whatever you tell them – your sorrows, your joy, your breakup, or the fight you had with your boss.
No matter, how long you keep on chattering, they will be listening quietly and with great enthusiasm. But, that doesn’t mean, you won’t give your friend a chance to speak.
Simply let the conversation flow naturally and stop when either of you is tired of listening/speaking. It is not a real friendship if only one person does the whole talking and other does none.
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5# They never discourage you
Best Friends never say a word that will discourage you from pursuing your dreams, no matter how BIG it might seem. Most of the times, they will encourage you for everything you want. Even if they discourage you for something, it will be in your best interest.
No best friend will be cruel enough to discourage you for something out of jealousy or for his/her own benefit. Advice from best friends is always helpful and constructive that will help you to become a better person.
6# They don’t care about your past
The Past is gone and cannot be changed; therefore best friends never give a damn about it. In your past, you might not have been as good as you are now, but that doesn’t matter.
Best friends believe in living in the present, no matter how colorful or grayed your past might be.
Just reveal some of your pasts’ to your current best friend and see how they react to it.
You can quickly know, what’s on their mind!
Further Reading: 5 Ways to Help a Stressed-out Friend
7# They never leave you alone
Ever saw your best friend leaving you alone and hanging around with other guys/girls? No, right? Best friends never do that.
They will never let you alone in social gatherings or anyplace. Instead, your best friend may leave others to give you company. They even take you wherever they go!
8# They never get jealous
They don’t get jealous of your success. Instead of thinking “Why not me?” best friends are always happy for you. They don’t waste their time in a pit of jealousy when something good happens to you. They love your progress and always believe in your potential.
9# They don’t take it for “Granted.”
Best friends view friendships from a serious perspective and therefore never take it for granted.
They don’t see the bond as a short-term deal that can be wiped off when it becomes troublesome.
Best friends aren’t there for watching funny videos, chatting continuously or playing snooker, they are the people who are ready to help you in difficult times without a second thought.
Sudden job loss, breakup with your girlfriend, fight with someone or anything else, they are there to help you cope with the situation.
Whenever possible, they will lend their hand to make you feel better.
10# They never let you suffer alone
No matter how hard you try to hide your feelings, your Best friend will come to know about it. They will never let you suffer alone.
Instead, they will make their greatest effort to bring a smile on your face.
And yeah! If s/he is your best friend, they will definitely know a sure shortcut-way to bring an instant smile on your face, even if you are in your biggest grief.
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11# They don’t let you do crazy things alone
Yup! Your best friend is as crazy as you are, and won’t let you do anything crazy without him/her.
They are ready to go out with you and experience the most insane moment without thinking about what others might think.
For them, you and those crazy moment much more expensive than people’s opinion about it.
Think you know your best friend well? Try these Best Friend Tag Questions.