When it comes to meeting people on Tinder, beauty, and selfie skills are not enough. If you were successful and you managed to make a match, a bad conversation can ruin everything. We know that it is very difficult to start a good conversation, and that is why we have written this article.
While some people have a natural gift of using words and can make conversations very naturally, others don’t know what to do and rarely get a second answer. We want you to be in the first group, and following this guide we have done for you, you will soon be getting appointments as you always wanted.
Improving your skills in Tinder is not that difficult, so we are here to help you.
Know what you are facing with
Before continuing, you have to know some things that are not exactly beautiful: a large part of how your match reacts has nothing to do with you. Not everyone on Tinder is looking for the love of his life or a beautiful relationship.
Many users only use it for the satisfaction of liking other people and really don’t mind getting to know anyone.
Many users also respond only depending on their mood at the moment. So many people open an account shortly after they ended a relationship only to return with their ex a week later.
As soon as your phone rings to warn you that you have a match, you surely have an explosion of joy that makes you feel a huge desire to send a message. The first thing you have to do is hold on to your desire.
Avoid writing to your match immediately. If you have an excellent entry line maybe you can do it without problems, otherwise, it is best to wait at least 24 hours to send the first message.
Waiting generates intrigue and curiosity, and it makes him/her notice that you have a busy life and therefore interesting. Think about it. Would you go out with someone who doesn’t separate from the phone?
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Think about what you will say
Waiting also has a great advantage: you can plan very well what you will say. Look closely at his/her images and read his/her description very carefully, find something to talk about or something that gives you a clue about what kind of things he/she likes.
The entry lines
The first thing you should do is to get creative and make a selection of good entry lines. You need to take the opportunity to create a good first impression with something that distinguishes you from all other matches that the other person may have.
What you should never do is to never ever use “Hello”, “Hello sexy” or anything like it. Although it is polite to start with a greeting, it’s what everyone does, so you have to get creative with something different, something unusual, in this way you will achieve the first goal: to stand out.
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The perfect entry line
Above all it has to be fun in any way: smart, absurd, and even ridiculous. You must have a lot of security in your personality. Don’t be afraid to show yourself as you are.
This also doesn’t mean that the first thing you say is “In your apartment or in mine?” It never works and if it works, run away! Anyway, remember: Don’t confuse audacity with vulgarity. If you still don’t have any ideas on how to make a good entry, we have some practical examples of what to do and what not to do.
Remember that they are just examples, don’t copy them letter by letter, because surely your match has already heard them before, and few things are more unpleasant than someone who copies.
Bad and good ideas
Bad idea: “Hey ;)” The first rule is that you should avoid emoticons. The MSN Messenger era was left behind along with your puberty. In addition, a greeting, although it is of a good education, will not take you very far. It is very formal, rigid and is what everyone does. Remember, it’s about standing out of crowd.
Good idea: Don’t start with a greeting of any kind. Start with a fun fact about yourself or the world. For example: Did you know that in Australia there are vacancies to work as an Embracing Wombats Officer?
Bad idea: “How are you?” never in life will work like the mythical “How you doing?” besides that the conversation will die with a “Well thanks, and you? – Well, too. “ It’s the worst way to open a conversation.
Good idea: If you are going to start with a question, ask something specific and interesting. “What did you have for breakfast today?” “What do you think about the guards being able to shoot poachers in Africa?
Bad idea: “What beautiful eyes you have” Opening a conversation like this only guarantees that you will be answered with “Thank you”. It doesn’t take you to anything and you only waste your precious time.
Good idea: Avoid making compliments when starting a conversation. If you made a match, it is clearly because you physically like each other. So, it is time to show that you are more than a good appearance.
Bad idea: “Hey, I’m almost your neighbor. Do you want to go out?” Imagine a stranger telling you this. What would you do? Exactly, call the police.
Good idea: If your match lives very close to you, you can comment something about a nearby place of interest or make some sharp observation or joke about your neighborhood.
Bad idea: “Hello! Hey, I also know John “If you have friends in common with your match, do not talk about that friend no matter how easy it is.
Good idea: Having a friend in common immediately creates a sense of trust. Take advantage of it! You can mention your friend but only to start a conversation that will soon have to change the subject.
Bad idea: “Hi, I’m John, what’s your name?” In the best of cases, your match will think it’s a joke, at the worst you’ll realize that the conversation is not going to give much.
Good idea: If at this point you cannot think of anything at all, you can choose the last resort: “What do you think if we skip all the flirting and go for a drink?”
Bad idea: Don’t say anything. If you don’t say anything, you will most likely end up being buried by other matches that do have something interesting to say.
Good idea: Any of the above.
The golden rule of the entry lines is: if it is the first thing that occurred to you, it surely occurred to everyone else and it would be better to think of something else.