People are social animals, and no matter how much loner they want to be, they will always seek good company. When we are running a business, we want to attract good clients in our practice, and we want to be surrounded by nicer people, as we all know, not everyone is “our type.” Believe it or not, there is always a “type” for everyone. Remember the schoolgirl who irritated the hell out of you for no prominent reason, well, it was because she was NOT your Type.
Here are ways you can attract right people in your life, and live your life peacefully; maybe you won’t need to meditate that way!
Know who you are
We are often not who we want to be, but what society expects. In the middle of all hunky dory, we forget who we actually want to be. It includes what our desires are and how different our opinions and perceptions are, in comparison to others. What is your top priority in work? Do you really want to give the job to the good looking girl even though she is not that diligent at work? Are you willing to spend 18 hours of the day working in the office for big money from the rich client?
Have an ideal set in mind
Know specifically the kind of person you want to attract in your professional and personal life. If you are not sure about the qualities you desire to have in them, how would you make sure they are right for you? Picture the ideal in your mind, and then you will have a better perception of who is most suitable to your needs and who needs to stay away.
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If you are eager to please everyone, you might not be able to make anyone feel special. But if you are particular about your ways and are willing to neglect things which you do not desire, people will get that vibe on their own and maintain a good distance from you. You are now sending away the people who don’t fit your needs and becoming closer to finding one who does.
Let them Find you
If you are hidden in the corner of your room, no one is going to find you magically and be with you forever and ever. You need to put yourself out there in the crowd, by meeting new people and hanging out with them. You must talk to as many people as you can and let them know who you really are. The more you participate out loud, the more people are going to notice you. Everyone knows like attracts like.
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Be open to whatever comes your way
Have an open door to anyone who gets closer. It doesn’t have to mean that they should be “exactly” who you looking for, but it will still make you learn something. You must be willing to handle opportunities in order to let people in your lives. Show them who you are, and you will find good fits.
Now, I am not asking you to be a cry baby, but you must be sensitive enough to not though lewd remarks at people who you just met. This unpleasant behavior might take the good ones away from you. I know you like being sarcastic, but there is always a time and place for it. Also, no need to be a hard shell that doesn’t expose what he is feeling. You could talk about your past and the things that you have certain fear for. Let people know you better. Don’t be afraid of being a little bit exposed.
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Laugh out loud
Everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn’t mean you punish yourself by not letting yourself loosen up. You must learn how to laugh at your mistakes and not be a downer all the time. If you keep cribbing about how you ruined your life, no one is going to like your company.
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Live in the moment
There is no future if you don’t live in the present. Waiting idly for people to enter in your life or procrastinating tasks will lead you into delaying the process of meeting new people. Find out time for yourself now. Go out to the bar to have some drinks with the fellow strangers around you and talk to them. Don’t hide inside your room as maybe all you need is a cup of coffee and a nice walk to meet good people.