Sometimes you happen to be stuck, blocked and confused. Not that you don’t know how to make decisions or how to do things, nor is it about fear, but you do not know what to do.
You may have already met the goals and objectives that you had proposed, or you’ve accommodated in a situation, and you realize you are no longer motivated. You don’t know which way to go next. It may also be that you have to make a major career decision to mark your path, but you are blocked.
This situation is widespread and frustrating because there is nothing worse than uncertainty; and generally, it’s because you’re not sure what you want.
However, deep down, you do probably know it; you just need to dig a bit to bring it to light. How can you do so?
Getaway from where you are
Many times your situation, stress and family pressures are too high to let you think clearly. No matter how much you try, you are unable to do so. In such situations, it’s hard to know what you really want, so it’s important to take time out for yourself.
Escape from your usual environment. This is when you need it the most. Not just ten minutes, but the whole time you need to think clearly.
Go on a holiday for a couple of days. If you cannot do so, just take a weekend only for yourself, completely isolated, and think about your situation in solitude.
Go for a walk, take a relaxing bath and listen to the music. You need to let your thoughts flow without the daily pressures.
Reconsider your values and needs
Many times the reason for stagnation is that you’re not aware of your values and needs, or that they have changed and what previously fulfilled you, does not seem to do so now.
When your life misaligned from your values, you feel unhappy. The same happens when your needs aren’t met. Being aware of your needs makes it easier for you to make decisions.
People also seem to be unhappy if they lack goals in life.
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Make sure you live your life on your terms, not according to the rules of the society.
It is easy to believe in the idea of success that your friends, family and the media show you, but if it is not what you want, you will feel unhappy.
It is important to define what success means to you in all areas of your life. Most people usually associate success with professional accomplishments, but do you believe in the same?
For some people traveling the whole world is a success, for others, being a good mom/dad is! It’s just a matter of perception.
Find what really matters to you.
It is important to know how to prioritize, how to choose what is important in your life, and devote your time and efforts to it.
It is fine if you want to enjoy your life fully and have many goals, dreams and objectives; but that doesn’t mean that you have to do everything in this year and end up stressed for lack of time.
Examine your target list and decide which goals you can achieve this year, and which ones can wait a little longer.
There are certain things worth postponing. For example, if there are numerous places you would like to travel, try to fly to some locations now, while you are still young and full of energy, and leave the others for later.
You can do whatever you want, but be realistic according to the time and energy you have.
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When you are clear about your values, needs, priorities, and definition of success, things look differently.
It costs less to make decisions, it costs less to find what you want, because you know best, which is paramount to live life according to your rules and to feel satisfied with your actions and decisions.