There comes a point in your life when you feel that it is just “too much”. It is as if you are in a constant war and battle with yourself or even with others. You can’t take it anymore. All you want to do is run away and scream. Everything feels so hard, even the simplest things like getting out of bed and taking a shower or even making breakfast and eating. Whatever the reason, you need to know that you are not alone. Everyone has experienced this at some point in their life. Like life is “too much to handle”. And that’s okay. There are many reasons why you feel this way, but know that there are also many ways to overcome this feeling and enjoy your life.
We’re going to list some of the most common reasons why people feel like life is hard, and some of the best ways to live a happy and fulfilling life.
1. You only see the bad in your life
Do you go through life thinking only about the bad things you’ve experienced? If you tend to focus too much on the negative aspects of your life, it’s no wonder you’re having a really hard time right now!
You need to understand that while you don’t have control over everything that happens or has happened in your life, you do have control over your perception of how you see these things.
Try looking at the bright side of things for a change. When you encounter obstacles that get in your way, try to see them as challenges that you want to overcome instead of wondering why these things always happen to you. Kind of like a test you want to pass. Or maybe a valuable lesson. When things don’t go exactly as planned, focus on the steps you’ve taken so far and the things you’ve learned along the way. It’s like someone once said, “Never give a negative thought an inch or it will take a mile.”
And remember, progress is progress, no matter how small!
2. Your life revolves around other people
You live your life to please others. Everything you do is based on other people’s opinions and desires. You may have gone to a certain college or chosen a certain major because your parents wanted you to. You may date a certain person because your friends think you are perfect for each other. You do all these things because it’s expected of you and you want to make everyone happy. And at some point, you forget what you want for yourself.
You need to start putting yourself first. Think about what your wants and desires are and do things that you enjoy and love to do. Otherwise, life will always feel exhausting and hard. Your happiness should not depend on other people. Being able to enjoy life means finding and doing things that you love.
The source of your happiness lies within yourself.
3. You care too much about what people think.
If you worry too much about pleasing others and what they might think of you, it’s no wonder you have a hard time. How can you enjoy your life and be happy if all you can think about is what people will say to you or think of you if you do this or that?
You have to realize that you live your life for yourself and for no one else. If you think too much and are always trying to find ways to make other people like you or be happy, that is simply no way to live a happy life.
4. You are too hard on yourself
It’s okay to fail and not always be the best version of yourself.
Everyone makes mistakes and no one can always be the best at everything. We all fail at some points in our lives. One of the main reasons we have such a hard time in life is because we are too hard on ourselves. We tend to criticize ourselves the most. We are never completely satisfied with ourselves and always want to be more.
You need to learn to accept yourself for who you are. You need to learn to love yourself and be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished so far.
You will have hard times, but you will also have good times. Accept that you may face challenges now, but all the good will come out of it.
5. You compare yourself to others.
We compare ourselves to others and the things they have and have achieved, imagining that they have everything they want and are truly happy. It seems that everything is going smoothly for them, that everything is so easy. And we think that they are happy and more satisfied than we are.
But the truth is, we can never really know what someone else is going through or struggling with. Just like you, your neighbor is going through tough times. He may have a nice car, a nice house, and lots of money, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t struggling. You can’t possibly know all the things he’s been through and the hard times he’s had or may even still be having. Just because someone seems to have it all doesn’t necessarily mean they do.
Life will never feel easy if we are constantly comparing our lives to a fairy tale or someone else’s.
Instead of doing that, focus on your own life and the good things you have.
6. Setting unrealistic goals and expectations
Like everyone else, when you were a kid you had a dream of what you wanted your life to look like. You wanted a big house with a big family, a good job, or your own business. Maybe you dreamed of traveling the world without having to worry about anything.
And now you find yourself in a life that is not what you dreamed and hoped for. Not everyone gets the life they always dreamed of. And for those who do get it, be sure that this life was not just given to them. In your dreams, you had no real responsibilities. You did not imagine how you would come to have such a wonderful life.
You dreamed of a life where there were no challenges. A life without any obstacles. However, the reality is quite different. To live the life you always wanted, you have to work really hard. Maybe you wanted to be an entrepreneur and have your own business, but instead, you are now working for someone else.
The beauty of dreaming is that you don’t really think about the hard and “negative” things. You don’t think about starting a business, you only think about the end product – having a business.
The reality is, if you want something, you have to work really hard, put time and effort into it, and probably sacrifice a few things. And that’s not easy and sometimes it can feel like an impossible thing. So either you work for it and fight for it, or you just don’t try and put your dreams on hold, indefinitely. But even then, life still feels pretty hard.
You need to stop thinking about how impossible it is to achieve anything. Instead: If you really want to do it, do it. Make a plan. Be aware that it may take some time, but it will definitely pay off in the end.
Don’t tackle big goals right away. No one has become successful overnight. It takes many steps to get to a position in your life that you have always wanted. Start with small steps and be proud of every small victory you achieve along the way.
It is unrealistic to set lofty goals to be achieved within a tight time frame. If you want to learn a new language, Chinese for example, you can’t expect to become fluent in it within two days. You will fail and that will lead to disappointment.
You need to be realistic about your goals and take your time to achieve them. Otherwise, life will always seem difficult to you.
So what can we do to change our perception of life? Isn’t there something we can do or change to live a more fulfilling life? Something that will make us shake off the feeling of being constantly drained?
Yes, of course there is!
There are many ways to enjoy life more, and below are the best.
1. Accept that life is as it is meant to be
The fact is, nothing is easy or simple.
Everything from applying to school and college, to finding a new job and an apartment, to making friends and getting into a relationship takes hard work and effort. Things aren’t just handed to you. No one is that lucky. Sometimes it takes a lot of sacrifices. You have to work for the good things in your life and earn them. Some people more than others, but that’s just the way it is.
Life isn’t easy and it’s not supposed to be. If that were the case, we could never be truly happy or satisfied in our lives.
And it’s definitely not fair. Bad things happen to good people and sometimes even good things happen to people who may not deserve it.
But that’s just the way life is. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you’ll start to enjoy it.
2. Surround yourself with the right people
This may sound cheesy, but the fact is that you are who you “go” with.
Surrounding yourself with people who are constantly complaining about something will make you think about the problems in your life. Whether it’s your family or your closest friends, if all they see and do is talk about the negative things in their lives, you will start doing the same.
This means that they are not the right choice of people for you to surround yourself with.
You need to surround yourself with a good selection of people. People who are optimistic and supportive. People who will cheer you up during the bad times. People who will motivate you and help you strive for more. And people who will help you see the beauty in things you forgot existed.
3. Find time for yourself
Life can be stressful.
You never seem to find the time to do all the things you set out to do. Even when you’re not working, it feels like you are. There are just too many things to do around the house, too many calls to make, too many bills to pay. And everyone wants something from you!
At times like these, it’s important to take a step back. Think about the things you need right now. Things that you want. Do you really need to go shopping for your family this weekend? Or go to that restaurant with your friends? Do you feel like too much of your energy is going into other people?
You can’t do it all. Or you can, but as a result you will feel drained. And then everything in your life will feel much harder than it is.
Try to do things that you really enjoy, things that energise you instead of taking that energy away.
Instead of cleaning your house, just sit down and relax. It’s your day off and say no to work. Instead of going out with your friends, treat yourself to a spa treatment. Do something alone and just for you.
It’s important to keep in mind that just like everyone else, you need time just for yourself.
Find things that you love and enjoy doing. Start doing more for yourself and less for others. Try to see the good in the bad. You will notice how your perception changes over time.
Just remember that everything takes time, including changing your outlook on life!