While some people attract other like glue, others are totally ignored. But people are social creatures. Even if you consider yourself as a loner, you still need to communicate every day with a fairly large number of people. But sometimes people just don’t like each other, often without reason.
However, the situation may be different. It is possible that there are good reasons why people avoid you in a wide berth. These are some of the most common:
You don’t listen to the others. Nothing is more annoying than a person who only talks about herself. And she is making no effort to hear what the other person tells her. Maybe it’s time to close your mouth and open your ears, to decrease the number of your “haters”.
You criticize too much. Nobody likes people who only know how to criticize, and never gives the compliments to the others. Sometimes, some things should remain silent and you should allow people to enjoy the things that make them happy.
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You are never guilty. Blaming it on others or inability to admit mistakes, is another characteristic that people cannot tolerate in others because it is simply impossible that you are never guilty.
You are a limpet. Everyone needs a little time for himself and your friends also. If you behave like a desperate limpet, it is likely that you will attract the wrong kind of attention, so let others take a little break from you.
Boasting. We all like to, at times, brag about our successes and achievements, but bragging without limits will leave a completely wrong impression. Also, if you set like you’re above others, you will gather more enemies than friends.
Further Reading: 9 Ways You Are Your Own Worst Enemy
Selfishness. If you always avoid paying bills, make sure that the other people around you will notice that and they will not like your behavior at all. Sometimes it will happen that “you don’t have” money, but is a completely different thing to be selfish.
You are full of negativity. In other words, you are one of those people who are always in trouble, above them is always a dark cloud and they always see only the negative side in everything. Given that such sentiments can easily be transferred to the others, no wonder that people avoid you in a wide berth.
You don’t take anything for serious. You’re late for meetings and other appointments, canceling them at the last moment, you don’t stick to your promises and so on. Such actions are showing to the people that you don’t respect them, and no one doesn’t want close to them a person with whom they cannot count.
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You are dishonest. When we talk about someone who is a great friend, we usually mean that the person is honest with us. Many people who behave badly are dishonest, liars and like to know everything. If you behave like that don’t wonder why people are ignoring you.
You are rude. If you are a person who is behaving badly, insulting others and shame them – stop that because that doesn’t make you a person with whom people like to spend their time. Of course, you will find yourself in a situation when you disagree with someone. Or you will see something you didn’t want to see, but there is no point to raise the noise.
Further Reading: How to Calm The F Down when You Get Really Angry
Constantly questioning your value. You must be an unattractive person if you are constantly questioning why other people are not considering you as important as you think you are. Let’s say that your two friends went somewhere without you and you are angry. Calm down, they are still your friends and their lives will not stop when you are not there.
Pay attention to the things you do, or how you treat others. If you don’t change something about yourself, don’t wonder in vain why people are ignoring you. It’s obvious.